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How to win over your difficult mother-in-law and other female family members 

According to researchers at Utah State University, nearly 60 percent of all marriages suffer from tension with mothers-in-law, normally between the daughter-in-law and her husband's mother.

How to win over your difficult mother-in-law

The stat above may have been provided from a different social terrain, but its import is just as relevant around here, maybe even more.

Mothers-in-law in this part of the world have over time become famed for being meddlesome, disruptive, overbearing and trying to exert too much influence on the marriages of their sons.

It goes without saying that while the above stat certainly has its merits, there are mothers-in-law who are nothing like the profile painted above.

Regardless, there have been far too many stories and so many wives have experienced tension with their spouse’s mums [and sometimes, husband's female siblings] for this to be an issue to scoff at.

You can win over the affection of both your mother-in-law and other women in his family. [Credit: Getty]

So while we have already listed here seven good reasons why you should try to be good friends with your mother-in-law, now we provide helpful advice on how you can do so.

Respect

To be honest, many of the rules on how to win your partner’s mother over can be pegged under an important canopy word and that is ‘respect’.

In this context, the word is not limited to just its primary meaning which is synonymous with honour and being humble in your relationship with the older woman. Respect here is to be extended to cover concepts such as being accommodating, accepting and understanding.

As much as is reasonable, you want to accord the mother of your husband the reverence she deserves for the older connection she has with your man, and also because many times, men usually have special ties with their mothers. You need to respect that.

That many sons have a special connection with their mums is one reason why you should try to respect the older woman. [ParentToolKit]

There’s no need to make a mockery of that bond by trying to set up the man to pick between you and your mother-in-law. Sometimes, this is usually unavoidable, but be fair enough to ensure that this is not as a result of your disrespect or some other devious shenanigan.